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Boots Chantilly<p>animals &amp; hoards guns. &amp; me? I’ve spent 10s of 1000s of dollars in therapy, trying to repair the damage done to me by my adopters &amp; the industry that cheerfully sold me to monsters. For profit.</p><p>The next time you feel compelled to blindly praise <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> (or adopters), pls think of me. &amp; my adoptive brother. &amp; all the adoptees silently bearing their grief, confusion, trauma &amp; abuse. &amp; all those who didn't--or won't--survive it. /end</p><p><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>As adoptees we stand united w/ our community to honor the memory of those we have lost to suicide, abuse, &amp; systems that have failed to care for us; while offering support to one another in our struggle for our own rights still unrecognized by society.<br><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeRemembranceDay" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeRemembranceDay</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>Well, that didn’t take long! I’ve already had a THERE’S ALWAYS ADOPTION response to my#OurAbortionStories thread (which is ridiculous on its face since adoption isn’t an alternative to pregnancy/childbirth, but I digress). Let me be very clear about my position. I am adopted. I’ve been living <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> for 63 yrs. &amp; I’d eat a bvll3t before I did what was done to me to another human being. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>My sister is giving up teaching in LA for driving a truck. A fuel tanker. She already has her tanker &amp; hazmat endorsements. What's funny is I used to drive for a national mover on college breaks--&amp; I'd never told her about it.</p><p>We didn't find each other until a decade ago--we didn't even know about each other--but there are so many oddball coincidences between she &amp; I. Some are REALLY odd--&amp; oddly specific. I sometimes wonder who I'd be if I'd always had a sister. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Adoption</span></a> does not serve babies/children. Adoption is an INDUSTRY &amp; that industry is about PROFIT. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>It’s been about a yr since I’ve done a hashtag post—I think it’s time! <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/RockAndRoll" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>RockAndRoll</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/SoCal" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>SoCal</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/DesertLife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DesertLife</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/EVs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>EVs</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ChronicIllness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ChronicIllness</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AutoImmuneIllness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AutoImmuneIllness</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/PsoriaticSpondylitis" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>PsoriaticSpondylitis</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Rinvoq" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Rinvoq</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Dogs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dogs</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/DogsOfMastodon" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DogsOfMastodon</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Abortion" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Abortion</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AbortionRightsAreHumanRights" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AbortionRightsAreHumanRights</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AbortionIsHealthcare" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AbortionIsHealthcare</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteesOfMastodon" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteesOfMastodon</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeRightsAreHumanRights" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeRightsAreHumanRights</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/FamilyPreservation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>FamilyPreservation</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ERA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ERA</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/CancelStudentDebt" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>CancelStudentDebt</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/FreeEducationForAll" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>FreeEducationForAll</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/CleanEnergy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>CleanEnergy</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ReadBannedBooks" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ReadBannedBooks</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/BLM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>BLM</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/PunchANazi" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>PunchANazi</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Resist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Resist</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/EatTheRich" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>EatTheRich</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/VoteBlue" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>VoteBlue</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/HarrisWalz2024" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>HarrisWalz2024</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>w/ loss. Every single one. No baby/child becomes available for adoption w/o being legally severed from its mother, family, identity. Those losses are profound, &amp; no matter what comes after, THERE'S NOTHING BEAUTIFUL ABOUT LOSING ONE'S FAMILY. /end <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeMastodon" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeMastodon</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>Tangentially, even if it were a valid diss, I don't understand how "cat lady" could be used against <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/VPHarris" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>VPHarris</span></a>, as she's married &amp; has 2 stepkids. Was <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Vance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Vance</span></a> asserting that only ppl who've given birth are parents? Because not only does the USA already have a history of 46 Presidents who've never given birth, there are a whooooooole lot of adoptive parents out there who should be pretty offended by his statement. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/WhatMakesAParentQuestionMark" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>WhatMakesAParentQuestionMark</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>I rarely indulge in what-might-have-been. Nor am I a jealous person; I think it’s a waste of time. But Mr. Boots &amp; I have been binging Season 12 of Top Chef, &amp; some of it takes place in San Miguel de Allende in Mexico—my bio half-sister got to grow up there, &amp; I’ll admit, I’ve wasted some time being really fcking jealous of that. 🙃 <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>Ooo, Southern Baptists are fcking around, &amp; they’re about to find out you do NOT say no to privileged white women who feel entitled to motherhood.</p><p>Of course, if they can successfully outlaw abortion, those white women will be able to buy the babies of the marginalized women forced to grow &amp; bear kids they can’t or won’t keep.</p><p>Another <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/BabyScoopEra" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>BabyScoopEra</span></a> is coming—wholly by design. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ReproductiveRightsAreHumanRights" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ReproductiveRightsAreHumanRights</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdoptionIsA21BillionDollarPerYearIndustry" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdoptionIsA21BillionDollarPerYearIndustry</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a> <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/12/us/ivf-vote-southern-baptists.html" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">nytimes.com/2024/06/12/us/ivf-</span><span class="invisible">vote-southern-baptists.html</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://beige.party/@RickiTarr" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@<span>RickiTarr</span></a></span> Being told by all of society that starting life losing my mother, father, siblings, extended family, identity, heritage &amp; ancestry was of no consequence &amp; no importance. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>Assuming they live, of course. 💔 <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>Because <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> pros (&amp; most of society) like to pretend adoptees are “as if born to” our adopters, there is ZERO oversight after an adoption is finalized. ZERO. If the kid you relinquish isn’t lucky enuff to end up w/ decent ppl—or if the folks to whom you entrusted them turn out to be lying sacks of sht, OH WELL. Sucks to be them. They’ll spend their lives being told by all of society how magnanimous &amp; selfless their abusers are &amp; that they’re lucky &amp; should be grateful. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>The adoptees listed on this Adoptee Memorial Wall make up a tiny FRACTION of <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoptees" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoptees</span></a> who have been murdered in their adoptive families (or who’ve committed suicide—did you know we attempt suicide at 4 times the rate of the non-adopted?). <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a> <a href="https://adopteememorialwall.wordpress.com/lost-to-murder-by-adoptive-parents/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">adopteememorialwall.wordpress.</span><span class="invisible">com/lost-to-murder-by-adoptive-parents/</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>Adopters aren’t superior beings, they’re just like everyone else. No more &amp; no less capable of parenting well. They struggle, divorce, lie, cheat, lose their jobs, go broke, etc, etc, etc. They abuse. They rehome. They get sick, they die. Desperately wanting a child doesn’t make someone a good parent. &amp; not all motivations to adopt are selfless—or admirable—or even healthy. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>My adopters starved me, too. &amp; despite the fact that I was CLEARLY malnourished, no one ever tried to help me. Why not? Because society has been taught to believe adopters are saviors &amp; saints. But abusive adoptive parents are not uncommon. That “better life” trope needs to be yeeted into the sun—when you give up your child to <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> , you’re abandoning them to an utter crapshoot, &amp; if they are eventually neglected, abused, &amp;/or even murdered, it’s unlikely you’ll even know. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>6/6 another person’s LITERAL labor.</p><p>I'm a pro-choice adoptee. I'm pro-choice, pro-health, pro-sex, pro-family &amp; pro-life. I am NOT a tool for anti-choicers &amp; their twisted agenda. /end</p><p><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ProChoiceIsProLife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ProChoiceIsProLife</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AbortionIsEssential" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AbortionIsEssential</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AbortionIsHealthCare" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AbortionIsHealthCare</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>Holy crap. We need to figure out who these girls from Awkward Family Photos are, because they could not look any more like me when I was a tween. Especially the younger girl. I’m not exaggerating. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AQuest" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AQuest</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/MoreSiblingsQuestionMark" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>MoreSiblingsQuestionMark</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>"Blood is thicker than water."</p><p>I've heard that all my life--but somehow that seems to apply only to those who aren't adopted. When it comes to adoptees like me, our hypocritical society's tune spins on a dime, &amp; suddenly, DNA isn't important at all. So I'm going to end <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/NAAM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>NAAM</span></a> with my (admittedly provocative) response to society's dismissal of my need to know who the fck I am. <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a></p>
Boots Chantilly<p>What I've posted is a FB message from Rebecca "Call Me Becca!" Gruenspan at RG Adoption making sure everyone knows they're holding a Baby Sale for Black Friday weekend! &amp; really, who doesn't love a discount baby?!? <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/NAAM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>NAAM</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/adoption" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>adoption</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/BabiesForSale" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>BabiesForSale</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/BuildYourFamilyWithDiscountBabies" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>BuildYourFamilyWithDiscountBabies</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/AdopteeVoices" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdopteeVoices</span></a> <a href="https://rgadoptionconsulting.com" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">rgadoptionconsulting.com</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p>