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JW Prince of CPH, Radicalized

- and you know why it's also all men? Because not a single one of us has never been in the company of other men & let one or more of them get away with talking or acting like a misogynist creep.

Not a single one of us.

And no, Hero McLanternjaw, this is not about DeFeNDiNg WoMEn - you're not in a movie. This is about inventing a baseline of manliness where the social cost of being a fucking creep is insurmountable.

Yes, inventing, because so far it doesn't exist.

beige.party/@Lana/113771971960

beige.party𝐿𝒶𝓃𝒶 "not Christmas Cake" (@Lana@beige.party)Let's try this another way. If I told you that statistically at some point in your life, you would lose two fingers in a garbage disposal, you would rightly say "clearly garbage disposals are dangerous to my fingers". And be extremely cautious around garbage disposals every time you encountered one . If I told you that statistically at least one of your grandparents would, at some point in their life, be eaten by leopards, you would rightly say "clearly leopards are dangerous to grandparents for some reason" and take steps to protect your grandparents. If I told you that statistically about 5 or 6 children in every school classroom are horribly disfigured every year in freak MacBook accidents, you would rightly say "clearly these MacBooks are dangerous to children" and lobby for systemic changes to the school system and the manufacturers involved. Now I'm going to tell you something. 1 in every 4 women you know will experience sexual assault at the hands of a man during her lifetime. Clearly men are dangerous to women. And if your first reaction to that conclusion is to argue "not me" or "not all men", I think you should sit with this post and think about why that is for a while. When women treat every man as a dangerous sexual predator, when we take steps to protect ourselves from every man we meet, when we lobby for systemic changes to the systems that keep male sexual predators in positions of authority and for systemic changes on how we raise our young men, we are, hear me, acting LOGICALLY. It IS all men, because it IS all garbage disposals, all leopards, and all MacBooks, until such time as systemic change happens. And if you are a man and your first instinct is to argue with women about that, then you are the problem, sparky. It isn't about intent. It isn't about data outliers, it isn't even about YOU. It's about making women safer. You're either in that flight or you're not.

@jwcph

I had that knee-jerk reaction to "all men" when I first heard it. I get it now, but I had to spend time imagining what it's like for women in order to move past it. Now, I see the women's position first. Their fears are valid.

That reaction is an indication that we men still have deconditioning to do.

And I could do better, but I'm trying.