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Last night I sent a selfie to a couple of texting buddies in group text where my hair is kinda tousled. I said, "Here's a pic of me tussled". I quickly replied, "Sorry... tousled. My hair... tousled. Not *me* tussled. I haven't been tussled in forever."

One of them did a little soft flirt back and said "I'd tussle Wren any day." 😳 🫣 🫠
Those two are so good for my ego.

Then this song shuffled into the playlist this morning and it's still in my head.
Still. In. My. Hehhhhhd.

🎶 I am not a brand new bicycle
I am rough around the edge
I am not a flower petal
You can handle me, you can handle me
Put your hands on me, you can handle me🎶

#MUNA #LesbiansFlirting #friends
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Tea need not be limited to a specific time of day.

In the same way, Christmas -- its spirit of joy and giving, hope and love -- need not be limited to a few weeks in the year.

And the combination -- a shared meal, filled with joy and giving, hope and love, can be enjoyed any time of day, any day of the year.

Tea for Two metal print -- 2-steve-henderson.pixels.com/f

#tea#party#christmas

Hey folks, massive thank you to everyone who has reached out to me over the past 24 hours.

I've not fully recovered from last week but the quiet restful days were needed. I am still not 100% sure I am ready for the whole people thing, but hey, I'm back online at least, well, I have been online, just not been able to do the socialising thing.

As always, Saturday involved a day out with bookshops, a beach, coffee and cheese n ham filled croissants. Friday, Sunday and today have involved light chores, some tapestry and some gaming, the quiet days have been needed.

Tomorrow I'm off to Glasgow to see Six! and stay in a hotel. I meet an old twitter friend for drinks tomorrow too - I have met him before but not seen him for a few years, it will be good to catch up! Then on Wednesday I see my niece before I head home, again, not seen her for a couple of years, so I can't wait, she is one of the best and its always a comfort to see her and see how well she is doing in life, I am so damn proud of her.

So I might not be around much for a few days yet, or I might spam loads of pics from Glasgow.

Take care folks, hug your loved ones, check in with friends and try not to get overwhelmed with the constant news, its okay to switch off and take some time for you.

SubstackSimon Campbell on SubstackFriday in Foz do Arelho was a day of heavy, tropical rain, a stark contrast to the gentle drizzle I remember from my childhood in Radcliffe. We had planned to take our four hounds to the lagoon as it was the first birthday of Françoise and Edith, aka the squeakers. I know @Suzy Starlite will write a little piece on them and will leave her to wax lyrical. Instead, we stayed home with me working on the acoustic panels for the Lab and Starlite jet washing the drive: yes, in the rain. Friday is one of our three weekly gym days, where for two hours, I attempt to kill myself—in the pursuit of a trimmer and happier me. We set off around 1400 via Pingo Doce to pick up some supplies. We've adopted a no-drinking-at-home policy unless we have guests. This has enhanced our social life, as we've been going out more and meeting wonderful people. And on that note, we had a dinner date in the early evening at the home of the omnipresent Oz the Foz with the promise of Belgian beer stew. On non-gym days, we tend to only eat one meal, so today we kicked off with porridge. It’s great to work out on, but by the time it came to 1800 we were pretty peckish. Oz's home overlooks the Atlantic Ocean, and we arrived just in time to witness a spectacular sunset. Joining us were John Cunningham, his partner Ana Pinto, Jamie and Cheryl Hutchison and Canadian, Andrew Byrne. The stew was delicious and was accompanied by mashed spuds, peas in a Belgian style and apple sauce, followed by a lovely, moreish, ‘heart attack on a plate’ fig, peanut butter and chocolate dessert provided by the Hutchison’s Oz is Belgian and a great host. By the end of the night,he was amazed at the number of empty wine bottles lined up on the worktop. Brits being Brits. Except for Cheryl, all the guests were musicians, and following dinner, we had a bit of a jam. I brought my Fylde Custom Falstaff guitar, and Suzy brought her Mike Lull M4V bass. Finding an amp for the bass is always a challenge and tonight, we experimented with one of our self-powered QSC K12 PA speakers and a Radial JDI DI box, which worked surprisingly well—no EQ, just straight in. The power of a great instrument, eh? Thanks for a great evening Oz in the Foz…

Earlier, while waiting around at work, I decided to send a text to someone I hadn't been in touch with for over a decade, due to 'life happening'.
We last met, after she and family failed to appear at our wedding*, for a train ride as a late celebration.

Many times I thought about getting in touch and 'for reasons' never did.

She was in a dream the other night, and that prompted me to get in touch in case I had lost a friend.

I am so happy that I haven't lost a friend, and I am hoping to make up for lost time.

*They had bought tickets, arranged the weekend to be away from home, had a buffet to bring for the reception, all for the week after our wedding.

What’s this? Another prompt I want to actually take somewhat seriously?

Who are your favorite people to be around?

People who are straightforward, honest, and the only bullshit they give me is the joking kind. Preferably, they can see shit about me that I can’t, and can do shit that I can’t without making me feel like shit for it. They don’t talk my ear off constantly about meaningless shit and believe that words have as much power as actions and use both in tandem.

I’m very picky about the people I surround myself with, and it’s a high bar because I have made peace with solitude most days, being mostly housebound and all, to the point where if I prefer being alone more than I enjoy spending time with a person, I simply won’t engage with them if I don’t have to. I am too tired and have too much shit to do (as well as people I actually like) to pay the people I dislike much mind. My energy is precious and I don’t have much of it. So I do my best to use it wisely. My favorite people get that and go to great lengths to help me protect the little energy I have.

I’m not proud of a lot of the way my life has gone, and there’s a lot that happened that’s entirely outside of my control. However, I’m damn proud of the fact that I picked great people.

-Allēna